Praise. Praise for How We Love “How We Love has the capacity to change not only your marriage but every relationship that’s important in your life.”. How We Love has ratings and 99 reviews. In How We Love, relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich draw on the powerful tool of attachment theory. How We Love. Milan and Kay Yerkovich explain why the ways you and your spouse relate to each other go back to before you even met. Drawing on the.

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Jan 20, Pages. Click here if you are curious enough yourself. Sep 07, Charlie Einkauf rated it it was amazing. I consider it essential reading personally and also for th ok as of us who are called to help people professionally.

The Love Style Quiz

Looking for More Great Reads? In How We Love, relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich draw on the powerful tool of attachment theory to show how you Identify the source of missteps in your marriage—and learn exactly what you can do about it!

Although unmarried, this book has a lot to offer in terms of self-awareness of the way in live we love.

By page 11 I was emailing a friend and recommending it and making mental notes in my head, amazed that some of the questions they ask if I ask myself were spot on! The Avoider, who likes being alone, doesn’t share feelings easily, seems unruffled, and values independence; The Pleaser, who feels anxious around a sad or angry person, and ignores own feelings to focus on another’s; The Vacillator, who craves closeness and intimacy but feels angry yer,ovich another doesn’t return the same level of affection, often yrrkovich between warmth and silence, and expe This book addresses in-depth the five different unhealthy love styles that each person gravitates toward: I am thrilled that more couples will learn how to strengthen their lkve through the tools described in this book.

Love Style Quiz – How We Love

My hoow was so unsafe I remember hiding to protect myself. They unpack four main love styles that couples tend to fall into, all based on answering the question “How were you comforted as a child? Once we can understand how we le Herkovich of the most insightful books I have ever read.


Also by Milan YerkovichKay Yerkovich. It is helping us grow. They speak about the secure connector then go on to identify five primary impaired love styles — The Avoider, The Pleaser, The Vacillator, the Controller and the Victim. I get annoyed when people ask me how I feel.

I have hit or pushed my significant other or kids. I will be recommending to all the people I care about – married or not because we all have to interact in relationships and this book will help you understand how you’ve been relating, why, and how to become healthy in your relating. If I think someone is mad at me, I would rather do something nice for them than confront them directly.

Did you know the last fight you had with your spouse began long before you even met? Milan Yerkovich is a weekly talk show host on the New Life Live!

How We Love, Expanded Edition by Milan Yerkovich, Kay Yerkovich | : Books

My significant other controls almost everything about my life. Anger and frustration are usually the only emotions I feel. I would describe my childhood as unsafe. This book is yerkovichh must read for anyone desiring a better, healthier, more God-honoring relationship with their significant other!

How We Love, Expanded Edition

Your ultimate goal is to become a secure connector. Overall, the book was enjoyable and highly recommended. The second part of the lovee teaches you and your spouse how to communicate with each other while incorporating your own personal love styles, that were identified in the first part of the book. Jun 18, Brittney rated it it was amazing Shelves: While these styles were adaptive as kids they prevent close fulfilling relationships as an adult.

They assess a situation, come to a conclusion, and resolve the problem without ever feeling the need to consult anyone. This is not only helpful for married couples, though it is extremely helpful in this context. The last book that we read by a married couple got muddy in some areas, because we did not know who was saying what.

Avoider, Pleaser, Vacillator, Controller, and Victim.

I identified most closely with 2 of the styles which is one reason why I wanted to go back through and do the workbook as well. I found these lists extremely useful in wr out what fit me the most. Inspired by Your Browsing History. I only read so far as it applied to the single. I thought the examples and stories they gave helped flesh out the different ways in which the love styles manifest themselves.


I give this book four stars for editing, as it could have been more concise. The basic premise is this. Through experience and example we were yeriovich taught to connect in certain ways. I agree and understand that where we come from and how we’re raised plays a strong role in relationships, but I was hoping for more of a “now approach”.

Maybe not every suggestion will be a perfect fit for every couple, but I’m sure that every couple can benefit from a few of the ideas and tools.

Return to Book Page. The Face of Water. Yes, it is THAT good. Then they go on to discuss common partner combination and issued connected with each. Helped me understand emotions, why we react the way we do, the things that trigger us, how to communicate our needs, and how to resolve emotional conflicts in a respectful, healthy way.

One or both of my parents was critical or fearful, so I tried hard to keep them happy or win their approval. That type of understanding is essential for the Christian, as they are called to live a life where their actions attempt to put others before themselves, and in doing so they must understand how other people think and behave in order to determine what is really loving, and not just what is comfortable. Being able to look back and reflect upon my own family memories and lack thereof helped me to understand how I react to experiences and relationships, fraternal, familial, and romantic notwithstanding.

It has helped us understand and work on some of our repeated patterns and difficult problems.

Growing up, my family rarely or neverdiscussed personal concerns. I usually defer to a friend or my significant other when choosing a restaurant. Advice, tips, and hoe for anyone in a relationship or hoping to be better in their next relationship.